Bone Cancer Support

Question: I have bone cancer in my arm and lost my job because I got hurt ,Now how do I support my 2 kids and my.? I NEED FINACAL HELP .IM A SINGLE FATHER WITH 2 KIDS AND HAD TO QUIT MY JOB AND NO DOCTERS IN NEVADA WILL TOUCH MY ARM BECAUSE THEY KNOW SO LITTLE ABOUT MY CANCER .I NEED MONEY BEFOR ITS TO LATE AND MY KIDS HAVE TO SUFFER BECAUSE MY CANCER .

Answer: First, go to your social office. I don't know what its called there, here in Maine, its DHS. Secondly, see about workmans comp. Thirdly, see if you can get disability throguh Social Security. Fourthly, once you get insurance for you and the kids and food stamps and money to help out... find a better doctor. Good luck to you.

Question: ABout informed consents, bone cancer.? Allen, 66 y/o has metastatic bone cancer. Tests and chemotherapy were recommended to LIMIT the cancer spread, hopefully improve the quality of life and possibly cure the disease. His wife, Alice is surprised at her husband’s behavior. Previously inquisitive and discerning, Allen would always ask the what, why, how of options. This time however, Allen merely listens to what the doctors say and accepts their recommendations. He signs consent forms without reading them. When asked why he behaved that way, Allen said, “They know best.. What do I know about it?� Does the behavior of Allen amount to free and informed consent? Is there a need for a surrogate? Can the doctor talk to Alice and determine who among them will be surrogate? Can the problem be solved if Allen previously made a written consent or advance directive? PLEASE PLEASE HELP answer these questions and support the answers. Thanks!!

Answer: This would probably fit better in the Ethics, or Homework , forum.

Question: What does it say about people who refuse to wish the best for a cancer victim? A recent question I asked was about wishing Elizabeth Edwards THE BEST as she faces a recurrence of her breast cancer, this time in her bone structure. 5% (5 people) voted NOT to wish her the best, and also offered an insulting comment to her husband. I know that politics in America has caused extreme divisions among all of us, but is it going too far (at least for civilized human beings who have at least a shred of decency) to wish a cruel death to the wife of a politicial candidate whom you may not support?

Answer: Yes it is pure ignorance, People want to push the political agenda, regardless of what the issue pertains too. I have cancer and I am democrat, would you wish me ill because of my political beliefs, its asinine and inhumane it just goes to show the heartlessness of idiots that have to throw politics at everything

Question: Would you support President Palin's decision to appoint 3 Pro life conservative Supreme Judges like Thomas? Next President will appoint 3 new Supreme court Judges. Palin will easely survive an old 72 yr old former cancer and bone degenerative patient Mc Cain who may not finish his first term. That Leaves President Palin who will appoint ultra conservative Judges who may very well reverse , civil rights gained through the efforts of many brave women, and visible minority pioneers. Should we care about this?

Answer: You betcha. This is like a dream. You have absolutely zero basis to cram the civil rights decisions regarding race in with legalized abortion. Learn some history.

Question: Can anyone recommend a good support network for children of parents with terminal cancer? I'm only 21 years old. My mother's breast cancer has spread to her bones and the majority of her lymph nodes. The outlook isn't good. I'm completely overwhelmed. Has anyone been through similar ordeals, and can you recommend a online support network or group? I have a therapist. But I'm pretty much alone aside from that. My parents are divorced - I rarely speak to dad, and my younger brother is autistic and doesn't really grasp whats happening. I need outside support aside from what I'm getting in therapy.

Answer: I went through something very similar. My mother was diagnosed with a very aggressive and rare type of breast cancer when I was 16 and she was told she had a 10% chance of living longer than 6 months. Well she actually lived 5 years and died right after I turned 21. (I'm 28 now) I felt pretty alone too, since I knew no one that had gone through anything similar. My two older sisters lived very far away and didn't see much of what my dad and I saw. My dad and I had a shaky relationship as well. But quite frankly the whole ordeal kinda brought us closer together....at least we started to understand each other more. I do not know of any support groups, and even if I had I probably wouldn't have gone. I coped by self medicating (not that I recommend that). Mostly I had a group of close friends that got me through....some of them even wrote a song about my story....it was finished and presented to me when I got back from her funeral (appropriately named "After the Funeral"). If it wasn't for them I would have had a much harder time. Eventually I cleaned myself up and developed some of my own coping skills and now I am fine....you will be too. Hang in there, it won't be fun, but it will be a life experience from which you can draw knowledge. Sorry you have to go through this.

Question: My dad is sick with cancer in the US. We live in the middle east. I have 3 kids? What should I do? He's 80yo. My dad has bone marrow cancer and I live on the other side of the world. He's 80 years old. My mom is ok but needs my support. I have already left once for 3 weeks to help them and the kids were fine. My husband and them kept the house up fine. I don't know what to do and I feel like I'm stuck. What would you do?

Answer: kids come first,..even a dying father will understand this

Question: I am an only child (adult) and my father was diagnosed with cancer, where/who do I reach out to? I am in my 50's and my father is 75, he was never sick in his life. They are very confused at figuring out where the cancer began, but its already in the bladder and bone. I just need someone to talk to, cry with...........I have nobody! Sure, I have my husband and my sons and daughter. But, I feel I must be strong for them. So what do I do? I feel as if I'm holding everything in and not getting it out. He starts chemo on Monday 3/12 and has a prostrate biopsy on thursday, to be sure that the cancer didn't begin/start in the prostrate instead of the bladder. I hope someone has some options of who/where I may find some support.

Answer: Donna, I really can relate I'm my mom's only child and she passed away 21years ago and I'm 34 now. My grandmother got me counseling, and as an adult I really can say it was hard to talk to a stranger but it is what helped me open up which didn't happen over night, but after I kept going and the more I talked the more I was able to relieve some of the pain. No one can possibly understand what your going through or what your feeling unless they have the same experience and even then each person deals with death differently! Going to the counselor she couldn't judge me, she had no idea what I was feeling she just listened. I still find myself getting emotional because I feel like part of me left 21years ago and I'm incomplete. Crying helps me, me time helps me, just sitting in the church and not knowing a soul but your own & GOD, helps me, memories and pictures help me, just expressing how I really feel helps. Stop holding what you feel back, just think you have 50 good years I only had 13 and this is the perfect time to still talk to your dad and your family. Your dad is still here spend every chance you can with him and your family tell him all the things you enjoyed with him, how you appreciate him. The longer you wait the harder it is to express and it may come out in anger and you don't want that. What ever your religious beliefs are take advantage of them because now that my grandmother has passed away HE is who I have to depend on, even though it's hard and people seem to get tired of the same thing holding in your feelings in isn't healthy!!!!!!!!

Question: If my friends grandpa dies, should I take the day off? He has bone cancer and is going to get his leg (all the way to the femar) amputated to try to remove it. Chances are decent he wont make it. He raised my best friend that I grew up with and he was the best male romodel I have ever had. He is the kindest man I have ever meet. I feel very close to him. If he doesn't make it then does that warrent taking a day off? I don't want to come off as someone who takes a day off at the drop of a hat, but I want to support my friend. What do you recomend? NOTE: I am putting this in a couple sections to get diffrent answers. Don't know if it matters, but I am 21.

Answer: Yes, take the day off, certainly for the funeral but also a day or so just to be with your friend. I think your employer would understand if you explain he was a close family friend. You can offer to work overtime to make up for it.

Question: How to help, support,and encourage my friend dying with breast cancer, this makes her 3rd time she has had it. She had breast cancer 4yrs ago & had both breast removed. 1st of this yr Drs. found it again. They did surgery. In two weeks they found it had spread into bones and behind the chest. Drs. said no more surgery. Shes taken radiation and is gonna take chemo, maxim strength. She is only 34. How can I be the best friend? What do I say to her? What do I buy for gifts for someone dying? I wonder if she is making plan for her children and husband. The husband is stepdad to the oldest. The children will be seperated at her death.She has been given about 2 years left.

Answer: My mother died of cancer too. Her best friend was an angel and i thank god for her. She has been like a second mom to me ever since. It may be different because I am older than your friends children. Moms best friend supported her by helping to take care of paperwork and bills and stuff when she got too sick to understand them, by visiting her a lot even though it was hard, making sure the nurses get her whatever she needs. She helped my mother get through her will and stuff. When she was in the hospital she helped with pets and collected mail. When she wasnt she let my mother stay at her house when she was really too sick. Also by calming me and talking to me so that I would feel okay. When i went to visit her at a hospital afterwards she would just sit with me a while or give me something to eat. She stayed over at our house when my mother was sick and let mom stay in her house when she was too sick to live at home, Presents dont matter as much as presence. It is so easy to want to not be around her when it makes you sad. Her family may not be able to stay by her side too much towards the end because it hurts to watch someone disintegrate. You can be her best friend by being by her side. Thats all that matters. If you feel the need to buy gifts, just bring things to brighten her day when the moment is right. Nothing contrived. If she is stuck in a hospital bring a pack of cards, her favorite cd, some things to eat, or if she cant eat bring flavored lip gloss. But most of all, stay by her side and let her know that you will be there if her kids need someone to talk to or help them out down the road. --additional--: maryjane has a good idea with the books, my favorite was one called "Embraced by the light", which was very reassuring

Question: Can an mri give these results acurately with no past history of cancer or no other test done? MRI Impression: There is a large nonspecific osseous lesion within the proximal humerus which includes both primary, benign, and malignant bone lesions as well as metastatic disease. Consider bone scan and thin section CT for further evaluation. Consider orthopedic consultation. Location prediposes patient to pathological fracture. Had mri of neck and shoulder for two ruptured disk in neck last week. Lesion was there in 02. (seen in old x-ray). I have no symptoms to support above report. Lesion found incidentally.

Answer: Hello, I think it might help to have a decipherment or de-coding of the medical jargon, although perhaps you know this already. My de-coding is: "Within the top end of the upper-arm, there is a large lump in the bone. The pictures don't show clearly what the cause is. It could be harmless, or if it is cancerous, then it could either be a primary cancer of the bone, or a secondary spread of cancer from somewhere else. I advise a radio-active bone scan, and a CAT x-ray scan, to help decide. I suggest the patient sees a specialist. The lump weakens the bone, meaning that the upper arm bone could break at this point with minor injury." I agree that this is an incidental finding, but it is likely to be very real nonetheless. If you had it in 2002, that is very much against it being cancerous. Also, if you have no symptoms, that is against it being inflammatory or infectious in origin. Yes, I believe this result is real and should be taken seriously. Very possibly no treatment may be needed, but IMO you should get it fully checked out. I hope this is of some help. Best wishes, Belliger (retired uk gp)

Question: My baby sister has cancer? Really don,t have a question much Just wanted to have all my yahoo friends helping me pray ,My sissy is 40 with 3 children one disabled ,they found breast,lung,brain cancer and she is clear of the brain cancer now and he said the rest was looking better now today to find out it could be in her bones .I need support prayer I don,t want to loose another sister .I lost one to murder and my oldest brother to overdose my mother to cancer at age 63 died with my head beside hers ,My father 73 not well .Just tired and don't want this so join me in a healing prayer for her please .Thank You so much

Answer: Lord, bless our friends today we pray, Wherever they may be; And help them as they go their way, To keep their trust in Thee. Lord, hear each prayer they raise to Thee, And dry each falling tear; And hover o'er them constantly, For treasured friends are dear. Surround them with Thy mercy, Lord, Protect them by Thy power; And let them feel Thy presence, Lord, In every lonely hour. Stand by them when the road is steep, And no one seems to care; Thy arm of love around them keep, And whisper You are there. And give them strength to bear the cross, As through this vale they go; And stand by them in every loss, That they meet here below. And when at last the hour shall be, That life's short journey ends; O, let them lean the more on Thee, And comfort these, our friends. And open heaven's gate, dear Lord, And let them enter there; For heaven will be heaven, Lord, Because our friends are there.

Question: My Wife was diagnosed with midline maxilary cancer...? The visible tumor ranges the front of her upper gum above the front 6 teeth and back to the hard palate. The biopsy was positive for squamous cell carcinoma i believe is what was said and the CT Scans show it is in the bone... We will be meeting with a surgeon on thursday... Little back ground. She is 32 as of yesterday and is a non smoker and very light drinker. From the description so far we have been told they will do a cast of her teeth then removing all of the bone from canine to canine including the bone that supports the upper lip and nose the upper gingiva and hard palete. At the same time they will take a bone graft from her leg and put it in place of the bone in her upper jaw. From there she will have to have some form of radiation or chemo therapy.. we still haven't been given any time frames for recovery or the like. Has anyone else ben through this that can shed some light on what we are looking at? We have 3 yooung children and she is a stay at home mom. We still haven't been told what stage the cancer is.. all we know for certain is the area the tumor is in and that it has moved into the bone as well. I have had great support from my employer and they have given me intermittent FMLA aproval and will allow me to take intermittent leave after that if needed. I've been with the same company for 11 years now.

Answer: I'm not saying to cancel the procedure, after all, what I have to say is not widely accepted yet and may not work in all cases, but you should at least have the information: TREATING CANCER: On the news a while back it was found that Swedish scientists found that human breast milk kills cancer. It was first discovered to kill cells in a petri dish, but then it was found that people who drink it have also had some success in fighting off cancer. You need a prescription and it's not cheap to obtain, but it works. http://www.sciencenews.org/articles/20061209/bob8.asp http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/4187697.stm

Question: .??????.. would any one be friends with a cancer patient?????? mayby i could answer a few questions.. give support or jus talk to someone who would like to talk.... 2005 breast 2007 bone and brain.. id like t make friends and have someone to talk to...everyone i no acts like the cancer is catching is spreading and dont wont to have anything to do with me even talk....thanks i forgot to mention i can take care of myself so far ... i dont need no ones money i have that two.. i have three kids one son 2 daughters and 6 grandkids.. oh im 50 years old and i use to like to lay in the sun swim 4-wheel ride fish, camp and now with cancer its hard to do anything......

Answer: Any person that would not be your friend because of your cancer is not worth having as a friend. I have known many cancer patients, mostly children, and I have found that most are better than the average person. Stronger, sweeter, kinder, better!

Question: How can i raise money for a celebration for my dad being cancer free for 4 years? my dad was diagnosed with cancer in 2004 with AML Leukimia. He underwent chemotheropy and so much more. After all that the cancer was gone...or so we thought. But in 2006 he relapsed (the cancer came back). He had to get a bone marrow transplant. He did go through so much more and all this has really show my family a different view on life. He is in remission and this March will be the 4th year of him being cancer free. My family doesnt have the money to celebrate a big party but i know if i do have a party there will be ALOT of people because of all the support and prayers we recieved. how can i raise that money? PLEASE HELP. Im 16 years old. and i would like to surprise him with this.

Answer: AWW best of luck to your dad<3 Well since your sixteen do you have anything like toys or clothes you don't want. Maybe you can have a garage sale. I know this might sound weird but you can try a lemonade stand especially in a busy neighborhood. Do you have old Cds or nicnacks you can sell them on ebay. I hope I helped I wish your dad great luck. I will pray for him and I'm glad about this.

Question: Seeking information from cancer patients of Dr. S.R. Burzynski in Houston: did he Help? My mother is considering treatment with Dr. Burzynski and as her support person I am trying to get her additional information to help her make decisions related to her colon cancer, which has traveled to her lungs, and now bones. As a widow on Medicare, she is trying to make sound health and financial decisions. Is this clinic worth it?

Answer: Hi Mischka Ive never been to his clinic, but I know he doesnt use standard methods (chemo, drugs, ect) and that is good. I know the FDA has fought battles in court with him and he won a 14 year case (another plus). They want to stop people like this because they actually help people get better with uncommon methods that dont generate sales like drugs and chemo. Ive been eduacating people many years myself and learned everything from my teacher at herbdoc.com. He has healed thousands of patients with herbs, hydrotherapy, education on diet and drinking water. He had a clinic for 20 years in Malibu before the FDA shut him down for healing to many patients. I would go with your gut feeling and if it feels right go to the clinic, if not keep searching for other answers. The answers are out there, but you must have an open mind and accept the answer that fits for you. Best of health to you both

Question: Will she have any problems? My mom is has liver and bone cancer. Eventhough she's been given a good prognosis she can't work any longer and is disable because of the illness. She has cancer in her back bone. She use to be a hairdresser and as you know you need your back for support and due to long hours standing she can't. She has decided to declare Bankruptcy because besides the fact that she can't work she has credit cards that amount to $18k and can not afford to pay them with her disabilty check. I help my mom with groceries and other bills at home but I can't help her pay almost $600 dollars in credit card. My mom is a single mother and divorced. Its my 7 yr old brother and my 17 yr old brother. Will they take the apt away from her and her car? I am very concerned with this matter. She doesnt want to consildate because the dr has suggested that she has NO stress whatsoever and she thinks that by declaring bankruptcy she can sleep at night peacefully. All she wants is to keep her home and live in peace. And not have to worry about anything. She says she doesnt even care if her credit gets messed up because at this point she only cares about us and her health which is the most important thing. We have an apartment and 2 cars under her name. Everything is being paid fully at the end of the month. Another thing is that she is also paying for health insurance $225.00 which is killing her too because thats alot of money for health insurance then again she has like that because she self employeed. We are trying to get medcaid so she can rely on that and have an addtional $225 for her to use for food and any others bills. well she gets child support for the 7 yr old and 17 yr old. But, the 17 yr old turns 18 in November and she's no longer going to get money for him after Nov

Answer: Your mom can transfer all properties out of her name, before she'll fall under credit default and get taking away by creditors. I mean now. Also will would be her next immediate thing to concern. Probate for the heirs is taxable income, most state and some transfer after decease could be tedious process and tiresome. You and your brother can receive an gift from you mom as she is giving anyone of you one car each for nomimal value such as $1 etc... Teatment on the cancer could be something both financial stress and mind. You have to prepare to assist her on that every way you can. Keep asking more question, maybe others may have some more to offer. Not too many family in this country that don't have this experience. Wishing you and you mom well!